Dancing The Transformative Grief Of Divorce
Sometimes I still feel low and I was wondering what that meant. Was this a normal part of the transitional stage of divorce or did I have a problem? I decided to do some reading. Here are some...
View ArticleTo Lose and Discover Self After divorce
In my last post I described that after the ending of my marriage, went through a grief process of mourning the loss of ‘us’; and then after a while I went through a second traumatic grief period upon...
View ArticleUNWANTED PASSENGERS ON MY SHIP
“it not matters how straight the gate, how charged with punishments the scroll, I am the Master of my fate, I am the Captain of my soul.” William Henley If you imagine my life as a ship, with me the …...
View ArticleStripping Back The Layers
Now that I have moved on to moving on, I realise that it is “me” who has moved on; that is, the ‘thinking me’ inside ‘me’. However, some of my other layers are dragging their feet. Whilst I had always...
View ArticleMy ‘turning sixty’ resolution … to live by my core values.
As a younger person I always had a plan for the future as to what I wanted to do with my life. Each year my birthday resolutions would be a great list.of things to do and projects to embark on. …...
View ArticleHealing from the pain of betrayal
“You’ve got to accentuate the positive. Eliminate the negative. Latch on to the affirmative. Don’t mess with mister in between.” Johnny Mercer Intimate betrayal is when someone very close has hurt...
View ArticleThe influence of divorce on my needs
Our needs can be grouped together such as basic needs (food, warmth), safety (home, security), relationships (partner, family) and higher mind needs (work, leisure). After a crisis, our needs return...
View ArticleFoundations of freedom – my sanctuary
In the process of revisiting my needs, with the aim of moving from my vulnerable fragile childlike ‘I need to be comforted’ mindset, to the stronger adult ‘I need to be doing and giving’ mindset, I...
View ArticleFoundations of Freedom – find my voice and speak my truth
” I was going to die sooner or later, whether or not I had even spoken myself. My silences had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you… Once you start to speak, people will yell at you....
View ArticleCritical choices
It has been a roller-coaster of emotions for me over the past seven weeks. I had been working hard to try and get the marital settlement over the line before my second son’s upcoming wedding. I was...
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